So first off, let’s define the word:
Friendzone – When a member of the opposite sex (usually one you want to hook up with) declares you to be “just a friend”, thereby ruining all potential chances of sex.
Then there are these jokes:
And let’s not forget ‘Friendzone Fiona’
Well first I felt bad for these type of guys. They’re the ones who could build potential, long-lasting relationships, but are rejected because there are those other guys who get the girls even if they don’t deserve them (e.g. The douches, a-holes, you get the drill). Thus the ‘nice guys finish last’ motto. Sad face. 😦
And then after much deliberation and contemplation (not to mention watching Laci Green videos), I have come to a conclusion that this is not entirely the bad guys or girls’ fault. They (oh wait, we, because I’m a girl) are not the only people responsible for your lack of action.
First of all, let’s have a look at the definition itself. Being friends with a girl does not, I repeat DOES NOT, mean she owes you sex, or even a chance for sex. If that is your main agenda for your friendship then I don’t even think that counts as friendship.
Okay granted that you are not even that perverted and just want hippy-dippy skinny love, there is still fault on your side. Which brings us to the second point that the reason why those what we call ‘bad guys’ get the girls because they are assertive and confident, and are presenting themselves in a way we want them to see: which is a potential partner. It’s your fault that you presented yourself as nothing of a romantic interest. So obviously, we will have the notion that you just want to be friends. Can you blame us for that? You can’t just go whining and calling girls names just because we treat you friends when that’s all you make us want to see you. We’re not mind-readers, speak up!
Yes, friendship is a good foundation for romance, but when the time comes that you think you want to go to the next zone, you have got to give the girl a head’s up. Or else some other guy will come along, someone with clear intentions, that will get her. And then you have no one to blame but yourself, bombard your thoughts with ‘what ifs’. And if you get rejected, then it’s better than forever waiting in agony. Get it over with!